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He’s married to his job. Store manager of a 24/7 gas/convenience store. If nobody quit this week, his ‘regular’ hours are 5am to around 7pm (most of that time spent standing behind the counter) – although some days he doesn’t leave until 10pm (inventory and paperwork). When they are together, it’s all he can do to stay awake. On the weekends, he spends one day with his 9-year old son (babymama has physical custody), or doing all the things he doesn’t have time to do during the week (laundry, errands, etc) and trying to catch up on his sleep.
They have been ‘seeing each other’ for 4 months now. I told her she was the ‘other woman’ and that the infrequency and substandard quality of the time they do spend together doesn’t constitute a ‘relationship’ and she’s crazy to stick around hoping things will ‘change’. (Unless he gets another job, they ain’t gonna change.) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]
She claims that the time they do spend together is magical – metaphysical – spiritual – and they can talk and talk and talk about anything and everything. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img] (Apparently, this must take place during the short intervals before he nods off to sleep. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] ) Anyway…. she also claims that they don’t ‘have sex’, they ‘make love’ and that the sex— opps, I mean – love is some of the best she has ever had. Although I’ve known the woman for 20 years and also know she has had plenty of sex to know the difference, I also know it has been a while and I am thinking, perhaps, the memory could be a little fuzzy. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img] But, giving her the benefit of the doubt on this, I tell her – ok, the sex is great. You’re in lust, not in love. She disagrees. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]
I can’t argue with her any more and asked her what she’s complaining about then. You love a man who works over 80 hours a week. Get use to it or get over him. She thinks there has to be another option and that love will triumph (whatever that means). I think love takes work and unless HE makes room for it to work—it ain’t gonna work.
Am I wrong?
They have been ‘seeing each other’ for 4 months now. I told her she was the ‘other woman’ and that the infrequency and substandard quality of the time they do spend together doesn’t constitute a ‘relationship’ and she’s crazy to stick around hoping things will ‘change’. (Unless he gets another job, they ain’t gonna change.) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]
She claims that the time they do spend together is magical – metaphysical – spiritual – and they can talk and talk and talk about anything and everything. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img] (Apparently, this must take place during the short intervals before he nods off to sleep. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] ) Anyway…. she also claims that they don’t ‘have sex’, they ‘make love’ and that the sex— opps, I mean – love is some of the best she has ever had. Although I’ve known the woman for 20 years and also know she has had plenty of sex to know the difference, I also know it has been a while and I am thinking, perhaps, the memory could be a little fuzzy. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img] But, giving her the benefit of the doubt on this, I tell her – ok, the sex is great. You’re in lust, not in love. She disagrees. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]
I can’t argue with her any more and asked her what she’s complaining about then. You love a man who works over 80 hours a week. Get use to it or get over him. She thinks there has to be another option and that love will triumph (whatever that means). I think love takes work and unless HE makes room for it to work—it ain’t gonna work.
Am I wrong?
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